im not even sorry but saying you hate cis people is like saying you hate breathing.
no see the key difference is that breathing keeps us alive while cis people do literally the opposite
my facial hair got worse. i just saw dark chin hairs in the mirror. i am going to have to shave more than once a week. someday i might even suffer from five o clock shadow
hi update at 4 months: some facial hair (enough that i have to shave every few days but not enough to get excited about), voice is definitely in the male range now. my next plan is to put together a workout schedule now that spring’s almost here. i really want to get in shape.
Trans Resources N’ Stuff
Okay so here’s a post I made for my Diverse Populations course, which is a super basic 101-type course, which is why this is a super basic 101-type post. But I figured I’d throw it on here anyway, since it’s pretty and it took me a while to do. I cannot vouch for every single thing on every single website here!! But as far as I know, none of them are terrible, and they’re all fairly good places to start. Feel free to reblog and add stuff! I’ll check the notes and update this every once in a while if it goes anywhere.
General Trans 101
- Trans Etiquette 101: No Offense, But That’s Offensive
- Bad Questions to Ask a Transsexual—video
- TransWhat?: A Guide Towards Allyship
- Not Your Mom’s Trans 101
- How to Be a Friend to Trans Folks Without Putting Your Foot in Your Mouth: A Short Guide for Cis People
Intersex Issues
News Articles & Posts Relating to Trans Issues
- The Beautiful Daughter: How My Korean Mother Gave Me the Courage to Transition
- D.C. Launches First Ever Transgender Respect Ad Campaign
- For Transgender Americans, Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Repeal Not Enough
- Sadie, 11-Year-Old Transgender Girl, Writes Essay in Response to Obama’s Inauguration Speech
- Syracuse Passes Trans* Rights Bill; Activists Demand: “Free CeCe!”
- San Francisco Offers Transgender Health Care as Part of City’s Universal Health Care Plan
Information on Nonbinary Identites
Information on Gender and Trans-Equivalent (or Similar) Identities in Other Cultures and Throughout History
- Two Spirits—READ WITH CAUTION: this is a PBS program on queer-similar identities in Native American cultures, but it’s important to remember that for this or any other information on an unknown culture, it’s best to ask a person who is actually from that culture—they are far more likely to know about what you’re looking to know than any random white guy who wrote a book.
Other
- 52 Things You Can Do for Transgender Equality
- Why the Transgender Community Hates the Human Rights Campaign
Things To Remember:
- Every trans person is different. The language in the queer community is changing all the time, and varies from person to person. You may be using a term that is offensive to someone without knowing it, whether or not that term is okay with someone else.
- In the same vein, not every trans person has had the same experience; not all trans people have always known that they were trans. Any way of coming by a trans identity is a valid one.
- Someone who you consider to be trans may not identify themselves as such. No matter what you think, it’s important to respect them, and use the language they prefer.
- “Cisgender” is simply the opposite of “transgender”. It is a way to talk about people who aren’t trans without calling them “normal people”, and thus othering trans people.
- Always use a person’s preferred name and pronouns!! If you don’t know what they are, just ask. It’s better to have a possibly embarrassing conversation than to be unknowingly contributing to someone’s struggles.
- Whether or not a trans person has had any sort of surgery is not your business, unless you are very close to them. Don’t ask.
- There’s a lot of variation in gender identity out there (not to mention sexual identity). Just because something is completely foreign to you doesn’t mean that it’s not valid, or an important part of someone’s life and identity. Be respectful, and consider how what you have to say might be viewed by someone else.
- It’s safest to say “a transgender person” or “a person who is transsexual” or best of all, “a trans person”. It is never ”a transgender” or “an intersex”. Phrasing things that way is dehumanising, however unintentionally. Again, however, the language in the queer community (and even that umbrella term is contentious; some prefer LGBTQ community, or something else. I use “queer community” and “LGBTQetc. community interchangeably) is varied, and not all individuals are going to use the same words in the same way. Remember to ask what terms each individual prefers.
- Intersex people may or may not be/identify as trans. Their issues are mostly separate from those of the trans community, but I’ve included them here because they tend to get lumped together, or forgotten about completely.
- There are no requirements for being trans, or for being a certain gender. If someone identifies as a specific gender (or lack of one), that is what they are, full stop. You don’t have to transition to be trans, or wear makeup and pretty clothes to be a girl. It’s up to you and only you what you identify as, and policing identities is wrong.
- Identities change! Just because a person’s name and pronouns have changed, once or many times, doesn’t mean that their identities and experiences are less valid than yours.
- Again, the most important thing to remember is to be respectful, and think before you speak. Just because you don’t mean to hurt someone with what you say doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen anyway.
10 weeks and i’ve almost completely switched over namewise at work. i plan to file my legal name change soon, once my tax returns are taken care of
nine weeks shot today. i had an incident: the needle i use for injecting was damaged or something. i noticed a little speck on it while swapping it out but brushed it off. when i went to inject, it burned the second it touched my skin and i pulled it away immediately. it cut my leg. i switched needles again and the second try went in painlessly. lesson learned there, i guess.
i was originally prescribed 25g 5/8” needles, but i had trouble finding anything that big at my local cvs. instead i’ve been using 27g 1/2” and they are wonderful. they’re teeny, i can hardly feel them go in, and the only tradeoff is that it takes a little longer to depress the plunger. which, let’s be honest, is not a big deal when i’m shoving something into my ass in the first place.
changes: in the past week, several people have commented on my voice. it’s dropping surprisingly quickly. the peach fuzz around my mouth and the sides of my face has darkened a little, and i think i’m growing some back hair. i have a lot of energy, and i’ve gained a lot more weight than i can see so i think it’s muscle building. sex drive is up compared to pre-t but hasn’t really spiked to uncontrollable levels or anything. i’m still having the occasional bottomless pit day but generally it’s under control. i get lightheaded when i haven’t eaten enough now. it’s keeping me pretty regular with meals.
after im done pubertying and my face clears up and my voice isnt cracking 24/7 i am going to be
so
hot
just learned about a boston area genderqueer meeting group. i’m not genderqueer in the slightest, so i won’t be attending, but i’m keeping the link to their group page here in case i need to pass it on to somebody sometime.
